Overcoming Perfectionism: Don’t Let the Small Stuff Kill Your Big Dreams!

PerfectionismI have a few confessions to make. Last weekend, I sent out my email newsletter with a glaring copy and paste error. Earlier this week, my dog decided to throw a sudden barking fit while I was talking to a business contact on the phone. Today, I heard myself say “umm” way too many times when listening to the replay of a webinar I delivered.

In reality, mistakes happen, we are not in control, and many of us waste precious energy revisiting our shortcomings over and over again in our minds, wishing the outcome would have been different.

Brene Brown said, “Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.”

Ah, yes, shame, judgment, blame—all emotions we would love to avoid at any cost. I mean, who wants to risk having others think that perhaps we were not as competent as we have led them to believe?  That, in fact, we aren’t experts in our fields after all and are mere frauds?

Unfortunately, that is what so many entrepreneurs grapple with—the constant fear of “being found out,” of not being “worthy” of mention among the upper ranks in our industry, and of “falling short of  expectations” when it comes to pleasing our customers.

What is also true is that when we are so focused on what other people think and spend our time poring over what we could have done better, we completely miss out on noticing what we did well!

Perfectionism is an unforgiving foe that steals our sense of accomplishment and sows seeds of discouragement, comparison, and dissatisfaction. It says, “Too late! No second chances. You might as well give up.”

Next time you feel tempted to criticize yourself for the things that didn’t go according to plan, remember who sits on the throne! In Matthew 10:29, Jesus invites us to contemplate who is really in charge of our lives and reminds us that not even a tiny little bird can fall to the ground without God knowing about it.

“What is the price of two sparrows—one copper coin? But not a single sparrow can fall to the ground without your Father knowing it” (NIV).

We also know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose for them (Romans 8:28).

So, really, what are we worried about?

You are exactly where you need to be, and God has it all covered. Check your motivation next time you feel you “messed up,” and if you sense pride, envy, or fear, ask God to remove these emotions from you and replace them with His peace.

You are already perfect in God’s eyes, and nothing you do surprises Him. He has a perfect and unique plan for your life and work that only you can fulfill, mistakes and all. Enjoy the journey, see the humor in your blunders, and focus on everything good God has blessed you with.

I guarantee that when you not only authentically share your successes but also admit to those moments that made you cringe, you will find yourself in good company as others come forward to share their stories as well. Let go of perfectionism and go after your dreams!

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Comments

  1. I agree. We must be comfortable with who we are flaws and all. It is OK if we’re not perfect all the time.

    • Thanks for your comment Angeline – yes, self-acceptance goes a long way toward confidence and business success.

  2. Yes. This is so true.

    • Thanks for your comment Victoria. I am glad you were able to relate to the article. God bless.

  3. DJ says:

    If we focus less on ourselves and more on others, we worry less about how we’re perceived but focus more on making a difference.

    I used to be plagued by what I call ‘The Perfectionists Syndrome’ where I would record videos and leave them sitting on my hard drive thinking the quality wasn’t good enough to share until I realised it didn’t matter that it wasn’t great, what mattered was that it blessed someone.

    Thanks for sharing.

    • Thanks for your thoughts DJ. I love your comment about realizing that it doesn’t matter whether it’s perfect but rather that it blesses someone!

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